Rated PG-13 for sexual content and brief strong language.
129 Minutes
Directed By: Ken Kwapais
Written By: Abby Kohn and Marc Silverstein
Staring: Jennifer Connelly, Jennifer Aniston, Drew Barrymore, Justin Long, Ben Affleck, Kevin Connolley, Scarlett Johansson, Rod Keller, Brooke Bloom, Hedy Burress, Sasha Alexander, Ginnifer Goodwin, and Kris Kristofferson
I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. -Mary
Review
Do women still think like this? Are they still so naive? After watching this movie I found some things enjoyable 
about it, but still had the lingering feeling that this was a feminine regression that exploited stereotypes rather than realistic perspectives. As a woman it became difficult to relate to the situations, but as Justin Long cleared up for me, I guess I must be the exception rather than the rule. Even so, I find it difficult to comprehend that too many women left are quite this gullible, nor do I feel relationships or the sexes are this black and white anymore. The theme for me was not so relevant in today’s society.
I get the appeal the movie has. Women want to watch it and have some relationship or dating epiphany, and while the film manages to entertain while delivering it’s message, the direction and information is fairly generalized. Some of the stuff Long tells the wide eyed Goodwin is pretty simplistic, but fairly enough acknowledged as a reality that is ignored by many women. The problem is that there is no real unveiling, there is no man behind the curtain. Relationships and individuals are far more complicated then a simple set of rules. People, not just women all delude themselves in the dating or love game, but few are as fixated and delusional as some of these characters.
While the content was a subject of irritation, the superficial facade of jokes and charming interaction between a lot of actors that I really enjoy did work to smooth some of the agonizing moments of frustration over for me. Connelly and Aniston both play roles that are actually realistic and tangible. They could actually represent many women 
already in relationships suffering road bumps you hear people talk about everyday. There was an honesty to each of their roles that gave the contrasting Goodwin a little more integrity. Johansson and Barrymore fell a little more into the category of the irrational crazy that Goodwin also fell into.
What “He’s Just Not That Into You” did a good job of, was addressing the games and confusion of the dating world, and whether that was properly depicted and truthful information was divulged is up for discussion, but either way the film did succeed at moments of laughter, igniting an honest frustration with both sexes, and an overall sense of entertainment. Some of the movie worked and some of it was just a giant mess, a perfect representation of the dating game. Then ending itself was a colossal disappointment, with too many nice little bows that did a basic disservice to the “rules” the rest of the film was busy “teaching” women. I can’t say I liked this, though I can’t say it was horrible to watch. Another backward step for men and women in the movies.
I felt like Jennifer Aniston in that movie.
I had to wait a very long time before my BF finally proposed, and I too, had to dump him first before he came to his senses. :/
I agree a lot of the movie was just average, but it was worth watching.
Even my fiance’ said he didn’t mind it. Drew Barrymore, FTW.
i had to go through the whole scarjo situation. I agree with most of your review but it seems to me that while the women may seen naive, at least one is going to remind you of something you’ve been through or a time in your life when you’ve been ‘that woman’. That’s what kept me hooked:)
It’s sad to think that I actually know someone who is that naive and I’m sure she would have loved the movie and found some deep and meaningful message to it all. I personally thought it portrayed both genders in negative lights.
Oh Mew. I actually was thinking of you when I was watching it. That part and the JenCon part seemed most authentic to me and were the saving graces of the movie. The ScrJo part had some realism to it, but I don’t think they gave either character enough humanity or depth. A lot of the film felt like it was on the “cusp” of good depicting but unfortunately for me regularly fell short.
I agree Hagi. It didn’t give men or women enough credit. All of us are better than that.
I’m happy to report that not all women experience that knee-jerk, must-see-rom-com reaction. At least, I know I don’t. In my opinion, “He’s Just Not That into You” is the worst kind of romantic comedy: One that thinks it is ABOVE the genre. This is not the case, as it takes some of the worst cliches and recycles them. The only story worth anything is the Bradley Anderson-Scarlett Johansson-Jennifer Connelly triangle, and Connelly’s the only part of this threesome who has a character we like the tiniest bit.
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I really enjoyed this movie…I was cringing through alot of it only because either I’ve done stupid things in it or my friends have. Let’s face it….it’s a movie they all are prone to exaggeration that’s how movies are. I really enjoyed the book too.
P.S. my only complaint….not enough Drew Barrymore in it
I have the feeling the book would probably be superior to the movie. Some the of the relationships just felt too contrived and the behavior of some of the women too stereotypical.
I agree with the Connelly, Anderson, and Johansson triangle being the most reputable.
I think I could have swallowed some of it’s dogma better if there wasn’t pretty much all happy endings.
At best, He’s Just Not That Into You is a rather well-paced film that can be entertaining for some. However, if we take Anniston and Connelly out of the equation, we don’t have the feeling that the female protagonists try, right at the beginning, to 1) dictate their terms and 2) take things into their hands. For that matter, we owe so many thanks to the gender stereotypes.
I watched this movie on the basis of Scarlett Johansson and Drew Barrymore. They could be changing tires and I’d be happy. Nonetheless I left the theater feeling low, and more or less angry. Who wants to watch a movie that pretty much is saying both sexes are stupid? Even if that might be true, it’s given in the way of a romantic comedy. There was no comedy. There was no romance. How did any of these characters have a happy ending? All it showed was women should still HOPE to be the exception rather than the rule encouraging them to do more obnoxious things. It put men in the light of being hardly evolved past the chimp ages.
I just really loathed this movie and am surprised ANYONE liked it. Pretty much no redeeming qualities in my thoughts.
Its great to see we both agree. I disliked this mainly for some of the same reasons. We just are two great minds.